Every month, Care Coach Maura Horton answers your caregiving questions. You can email your questions to email@example.com
With the restrictions of COVID being lifted, I am still feeling uneasy about allowing people into our home because if I get sick I am not sure who will take care of my wife. Do you have any suggestions? She really wants to see people again.
I completely understand the feelings of sole responsibility for caregiving and how all-encompassing that can be. How and when to engage with others after COVID is a personal topic. It is entirely understandable if there are reservations and or hesitation. In finding what works for your situation, you might find it helpful to start slow.
Everyone needs to re-enter on their terms, their timeline, and at their pace. When friends or family call and ask to meet, try and express your concerns. Be direct, candid, and honest. Should you decide to meet, look for alternative meeting places. Perhaps outside at a park if you can travel that far. Or let them know you can meet depending on the weather and it would be outside of your home. Try to set a time limit if that makes you feel more comfortable. Suggest you only have a specific window of time to meet that day. Continue with the safety protocols you feel most comfortable with.
It's often difficult to balance the anxiety of caregiving and what will happen with the emotional needs of all involved. You can also tell everyone you're doing the best you can right now. It could be helpful to have a frank conversation with the person you are a care partner with and share your desires, worries, and concerns. Try making these decisions together so that everyone is comfortable. Assuming your care partner wouldn't understand won't be helpful. Lastly, we recommend calling your healthcare provider and asking for recommendations as they will know your family's medical situation, as well as your risk levels.